I personally think that the quality of your burner plays a much bigger role in problems then the OS itself. Even if your using a more stable OS like win98 or win2k, your still going to have problems if your burner is of crappy quality. Buy a nice burner from Lite-On, LG, Samsung, Plextor, Yamaha, and etc. and you won't have as many problems.
But for windows xp, I've had it paired up with my TDK 48x for over 6 months now and I haven't had any problems what so ever. And before that, I had a TDK 12x hooked up to windows xp with no problems either. Each person's OS and system hardware will function and perform differently since there are so many configurations out there.