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Postby MonteLDS on Sat Mar 27, 2004 12:43 pm

Recently I have felt unhappy and have been pondering why. What is that keeps me from being happy; Jennifer says it is a state of mind. I have a hard time staying in that kind of mind state with things constantly distracting me.

Security is the most distracting thing for me. Security in work, in relationships, in world wide government, etc…

I think my concern with work & my relationship has slowly turned me sour. I never feel so comfortable about where life is going.

Well enough about this pity party. Let me hear what you have to say about the subject
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Postby NoSmartz on Sat Mar 27, 2004 1:06 pm

reality

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Postby dolphinius_rex on Sat Mar 27, 2004 3:17 pm

hrm, for me it would have to be the fact that my girlfriend and I are about to call it quits after just under 2 years... that and my mother is getting sicker and sicker at the moment.
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Postby dolphinius_rex on Sat Mar 27, 2004 5:26 pm

yup, 100% official now. I'm a single dolphin again. :cry:
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Postby UALOneKPlus on Sat Mar 27, 2004 6:13 pm

Happiness is what you make of it. Only you can make yourself unhappy.

Here's hoping happiness.
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Postby tazdevl on Sat Mar 27, 2004 6:18 pm

Erections and being away from my girlfriend.
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Postby Ian on Sat Mar 27, 2004 7:39 pm

MonteLDS, maybe you need a new job and/or girlfriend?
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Postby cfitz on Sat Mar 27, 2004 9:49 pm

dolphinius_rex wrote:yup, 100% official now. I'm a single dolphin again. :cry:

Sorry to hear that, dolphinius_rex. It sounds like you are in a tough stretch right now. I hope things turn around soon.

MonteLDS, I think Ian gave you some good advice. You are still really young, so if you are unhappy with your job and relationship, now is the time to explore alternatives before you are committed to something that doesn't work for you.

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Postby jase on Sat Mar 27, 2004 10:17 pm

I am prone to bouts of insecurity and near-depression. I think a lot of it depends on self confidence -- if you lack it at any time for whatever reason, tiny, silly things can send you spiralling downwards.

I have had times where I've been contemplating suicide for weeks at a time, triggered by a flippant remark by someone at work, and the worst part of it was having absolutely no idea why I feel that way. Ridiculous, but it shows how fragile we can all be at times.

I guess seeing a shrink is probably sensible at times like that.
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Postby Ian on Sat Mar 27, 2004 11:29 pm

I've been to a shrink once. I had some medical problems that my doctor had no answer for. Naturally, she thought it was all in my head. To humor her, I went and saw a shrink. Big mistake.

I go to the nuthouse to see the shrink and he ends up being a resident. Nice guy, I chat with him... blah blah.. Then because he's a resident, he brings in his advisor. Now this guy is your stereotypical shrink. Crazy Einstein-like hair, disheveled clothes, etc. Within (literally) 5 minutes of talking to me, he's telling me that I had some horrible, emothional experience as a child. Needless to say, I walked out and never came back. Personally, I think the guy was crazier than the people that came in to talk to him.
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Postby cfitz on Sun Mar 28, 2004 12:31 am

jase wrote:I am prone to bouts of insecurity and near-depression. I think a lot of it depends on self confidence -- if you lack it at any time for whatever reason, tiny, silly things can send you spiralling downwards.

I have had times where I've been contemplating suicide for weeks at a time, triggered by a flippant remark by someone at work, and the worst part of it was having absolutely no idea why I feel that way. Ridiculous, but it shows how fragile we can all be at times.

I guess seeing a shrink is probably sensible at times like that.

Yes, that is definitely a time to visit a professional. Ian's experience notwithstanding, I think most pyschiatrists these days have gotten over the whole Freudian thing and, together with modern medicines, can give real help to those suffering from depression. In any event, you shouldn't feel that you need to tough out hard times by yourself, and you should aboslutely seek professional attention if you are considering suicide. Please don't keep quiet - tell someone!

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Postby dolphinius_rex on Sun Mar 28, 2004 1:02 am

Thanks cfitz :) don't worry, I'll be fine. I'm surrounded by people who care, and work to immerse myself in. :wink:

Jase: Deffinatly seek help man, and don't be ashamed :) A lot more people have seen psychiatrists then you may think, and I include myself in that group too.

MonteLDS: It might be time to re-evaluate your personal needs, and check to make sure that your current situation meets them. Your job may be due for a change... this doesn't neccessarily mean quitting either. Perhaps you can move to a different department? Maybe talking with your G/F will help clear things up too. Communication is essential in this, as well as honesty and openess, take it from me on that one! Good luck!
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Postby JamieW on Sun Mar 28, 2004 1:09 am

Having to work. It doesn't make me unhappy, but it is a distraction. Hell, I even like my job. But the mere fact that I have to be there prevents it from being truly enjoyable.
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Postby MonteLDS on Sun Mar 28, 2004 11:54 am

Ian wrote:MonteLDS, maybe you need a new job and/or girlfriend?


it is hard for me to pull away from such things. Because I am a consultant. It is an uneasy market right now for me. And I just don't feel right about leaving Jennifer, because well it will either get better in the next two weeks or possibly end.

One person said I need to go on a vacation alone.

I said, 'uh, and do what?'

MonteLDS <)--- has never understood vacation
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Postby F1Pilot on Sun Mar 28, 2004 11:42 pm

dolphinius_rex wrote:yup, 100% official now. I'm a single dolphin again. :cry:
Sorry to hear that, man. :( Hang in there.

I used to get pissed about work a LOT. I didn't mind doing a lot of extras "for the good of the clinic". After awhile, more and more and more was expected of me. The two things that make things seem not so bad are my wife and daughter. Thank God for them. They keep me grounded in a good way. I could have a horrible day and bring it home to the door. When I open the door, all of my frustrations melt away when my little girl runs up to me. Everything else becomes unimportant. I'm a very lucky man.

I guess the married people here in the forums are far and betwen? I know Boone and Ian are married, right (and JamieW is about to join the ranks if I remember correctly)? Who else? Dunno how it is with you guys, but being married changes things somehow.

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Postby dodecahedron on Tue Mar 30, 2004 7:43 am

F1Pilot wrote:I guess the married people here in the forums are far and betwen?

you could start a poll! :)
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Postby VEFF on Tue Mar 30, 2004 11:06 am

In my case, it is more other people close to me (relationship for example) bringing me down with their problems that weigh on me.
I tend to be relatively easy-going, and have been very fortunate in many aspects of life so far, so I am happy with things overall. I do have times where the commute and work get to me, among other things, but I can't complain.
Others around me have not been so lucky, and that is where I get stressed out, because I want to help them feel better about things...

Then again, being alone is no fun either, although it isn't always as stressful, in many respects.
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Postby VEFF on Tue Mar 30, 2004 11:29 am

dolphinius_rex wrote:hrm, for me it would have to be the fact that my girlfriend and I are about to call it quits after just under 2 years... that and my mother is getting sicker and sicker at the moment.


I am sorry to hear that! :(
I really hope things get better for you and your mother from here on out dolphinius!
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Postby wicked1 on Tue Mar 30, 2004 2:49 pm

having bipolar disorder,being broke,not having enough dope,women in general.
Fix those problems and I'd be a happy man.
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