Welcome to CDRLabs, ErwinArgyle
are you sure your Mad Dog drive is really a Lite-On, not really a NEC?
some drives sold by Mad Dog are made by NEC.
maybe you downloaded the wrong firmware, one meant for a NEC drive?
as for Windows not asking you how you want to burn the disc, this has to do with the AutoPlay feature of WinXP. it can be configured, i don't remember how right now (and not at home so can't check), but maybe My Computer -> Right click the drive -> Properties -> AutoPlay tab? or something similar to this.
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One Ring to bring them all and in the darkness bind them
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