okay you can all be proud of me.

[MonteLDS]

i got a cute girls number, and a date setup for this thursday.
ya pictures comming thursday nite

[dodecahedron]

congrats and have a good time

[VEFF]

Good for you!
Good luck and, most importantly, just have a nice time!

[cfitz]

Great! I third dodecahedron's and VEFF's recommendations. Just have fun and don't make it any big deal.

By the way, you don't have to provide us pictures. Use your time to get to know this young woman and don't worry about reporting back to those of us at CDRLabs.

cfitz

[CowboySlim]

Get a new set of boots and a nice hat.

Slim

[MonteLDS]

the one thing that bothers me is that I don't know how much i want to "invest" into this girl.

I am all about making a good impression. So do I do something that would make her say, 'wow, now all my other dates are going to look lame!' or something that just makes her say "cool, that was fun." or do i show her who i am and make her say "bump on a log"

[Ian]

Just go and have fun and be yourself. If things don't work out with this girl, there are literally billions more out there. You're not going to meet your soul mate on the first try... well you might, but I'd be very surprised.

[TheWizard]

Girls like being swept off their feet, no doubt, but they don't need elaborate gifts or anything to be swept off their feet. So, you don't need to shower her with a bunch of gifts to start. She may love them, but that will give her the impression that A. you either try to buy her love or B. she will expect such gifts everytime you two meet. The latter will be very expensive on your behalf.

As Ian pointed out, just be yourself. If she doesn't fall for the good ol' Monte charm, then it was never meant to be. There are, again as Ian pointed out, plenty of other girls out there; some of which WILL fall for the Monte charm.

[UALOneKPlus]

Have fun and be yourself.

My favorite thing I used to do is to take a girl out to a beautiful lake near my house, and just have a picnic and a nice walk around the lake.

After the date I'd take her to my office and show her how to install a Lite-On, and talk about why Plextor is better than Lite-One

[Ian]

After the date I'd take her to my office and show her how to install a Lite-On, and talk about why Plextor is better than Lite-One

lol!!

[VEFF]

Great! I third dodecahedron's and VEFF's recommendations. Just have fun and don't make it any big deal.

By the way, you don't have to provide us pictures. Use your time to get to know this young woman and don't worry about reporting back to those of us at CDRLabs.

cfitz

Well said cfitz.

I was originally going to say the following in my previous post:
"don't go out just because it will make other members happy that you are trying to move on and listening to the advice given here, but do it because YOU want to go out with her".
In other words: there is nothing wrong with listening to the advice of others, especially when it is as good as most of the advice given by other CDRLabs members who have had quite a lot of experience with dating, but ultimately Jonathon (MonteLDS) should decide what HE wants to do.

Once again I wish you the best of luck MonteLDS.
Reagrding what to do, I think something like what UALOneKPlus does is great. It is romantic and doesn't set a standard, financially-speaking, that will be hard to live up to if you were to do something very expensive.

As Ian said, just be yourself.
Go in with a relaxed attitude...

One thing women like is the element of surprise, when it comes to romance.
For example, if you start dating steadily and things progress beyond the initial "still friends" stage, whisk her away to a bed and breakfast or a nice picnic by a scenic location.
Another suggestion is to mix things up; in other words, try different things.
Don't always go out for dinner and a movie. I am not saying that you do, but just providing suggestions in case.
Go to the theater, go for a walk in the park, go to the beach, go play miniature golf; the list goes on.

You seem like a nice guy from your post and your videos, so just be yourself.

Even if things don't work out, I am sure you'll learn from the experience.
Each woman is different, and dating more than one over time will give you a better perspective of what women are like and what type of woman you most enjoy being with.

One thing I have learned is not to ignore early warning signs.
In other words, once you fall in love, it is much harder to walk away
and it is easy to think that things will get better, because love can be blind.
I am not saying to bail out quickly - quite the contrary - but not to ignore serious problems.
Relationships can be difficult at times, but if you are meant to be together things will work out, as long as you're both committed to making the relationship work.

Communication is also key. I have heard numerous complaints from friends, who have never voiced the problem to their partner.
It may not be easy sometimes, but letting things go too long, can be disastrous. Simply bringing it up in a non-aggressive manner, at the right time, can do wonders for a relationship.

Anyway, I am going way too deep here.
Just have fun and be yourself.

DISCLAIMER:
I am not a professional in the art of dating, nor an expert in relationships,
so don't just listen to me; listen to others. Most importantly just listen to your own heart and mind.

[CowboySlim]

I'd take her to a honkytonk with a live country and western band.

Slim

[JamieW]

You going to ask her to marry you when you pick her up or drop her off?

Do not be a human Soap Opera. Do not seek drama, or seek to overreact and things will be fine. The surest way to screw up dating is to make too big of a deal out of it.

[ClayBuster]

I would suggest since it's been awhile for you is to pick her and go straight to the hotel to drain your nuts! I find that it helps me to relax and just be myself.

YMMV

[Ian]

I would suggest since it's been awhile for you is to pick her and go straight to the hotel to drain your nuts! I find that it helps me to relax and just be myself.

Clay, that was totally inappropriate, but at the same time it made me laugh.

[MonteLDS]

You going to ask her to marry you when you pick her up or drop her off?

Do not be a human Soap Opera. Do not seek drama, or seek to overreact and things will be fine. The surest way to screw up dating is to make too big of a deal out of it.

don't give me advice unless you have something postive to say dude. it's getting old like last week meat loaf

[MonteLDS]

also to add to the oddness, i was at my sister house and she asked me about this girl, and i said, uhhh... i don't know anything about her, other then she is from the south bay, attends church at this location, and her name... So Thursday is really going to be a get to know you kind of date. I'll most likely talk to her on sunday though, to make a time for the date. I might as well ask her, her age and stuff like that

[ClayBuster]

I might as well ask her, her age and stuff like that

Yeah you might want to do that before doing what I suggested.

[CowboySlim]

Clay, that was totally inappropriate, but at the same time it made me laugh.

Ian, I concur. OTH, with but 36 posts and an underrun classification, he probably hasn't read enough to be aware of Monte's proclivities. For others, the advice would be less inappropriate.

For example, if it weren't our Monte, I would advise picking the girl up in a limo. You know, the kind with a hot tub and an extra wide couch, and bring along an extra long tee shirt in case she is afflicted with temporary modesty.

Slim

[dolphinius_rex]

Everything I could suggest has already been said! Take it easy, be yourself, but be yourself on your besat behaviour. You don't want to show her all your flaws right off the bat, but you don't want to come across as superman either.

Remember that just as she is looking at you, you should be looking at her. Your opinion on things is just as important as her's, so make sure that you find out if *YOU* feel she is compatible with you, too.

For first dates, I suggest finding out what she finds fun to do, and go with that, or something similar. Women usually like men who take their feelings into consideration on these things (and why wouldn't they?).

Most importantly, enjoy yourself. If you are too uptight, or self conscious, you will come across that way, and you might end up with those akward silences that everyone hates.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes!

[hoxlund]

just remember protection

hehe, i mean make sure your round cables are shielded, of course, what did you think i meant?

[dolphinius_rex]

just remember protection

hehe, i mean make sure your round cables are shielded, of course, what did you think i meant?

Using rounded cables on the first date? ick!

No no, women need to be courted properly, you gotta get the I/O started before you get the network adapters connected, know what I mean?

[hoxlund]

ohh yeah i forgot about io shield plate

actually i need to install mine into my hox box

[dolphinius_rex]

ohh yeah i forgot about io shield plate

actually i need to install mine into my hox box

Hey Hox, check out my question in the general hardware section. I'd appreciate your input on it if you have any thoughts. Thanks!

[hoxlund]

which thread would that be?