JamieW wrote:"The only solution is that there is no "I" at all."
This is false. You've not given the arguments that don't have a clear answer sufficient audition. You also are seeking an answer which you understand and/or have experienced. Neither of which is required for the answer to be valid.
"Obviously the way I describe this whole thing is off, because there is no "I" sitting behind each of my friends or me for that matter."
Yes, there is. You are trying to create a singular "I" when you have said but missed your own point. "I" is a matter of perspective of which many can exist without making any other one untrue.
You also could not be someone else because then that someone else would become "I" and the same exact question would be asked.
My point about the only solution being no ego is that if an ego does exist than the ego it self must have an ego and that ego must have an ego, back to infinity. If not, then there was no necessity for an ego to begin with. This is really similar to the idea that the universe needs a creator so there is god, but nobody created got? That doesn't make sense, you would have to have gods back to infinity. So why not just make the universe doing things spontaniously on its own. So the same thing can be applied to individules, negating the need for an ego.
On your point that there is in fact an ego, and that I contradict my self, I admit to contradiction. Thats why its so complicated. If you really think about it no ego exists at all, there is no observer sitting in my head looking through my eyes and hearing through my ears. There is no disctintion in the brain between conscious and unconscious. And yet I feel as though I observe. This is my dilema.
Obviously I would be asking the same question if I was someone else. This does not, however, invalidate the question. What choses who "I" am? Thats my real question. I've sort of decided since writing the original post that asking this question is similar to asking who decides there is a computer monitor in front of me and a keyboard at my fingertips? I think its just part of the spontanious dance of energy. But I am still not totally satisfied by this answer.